BALLS! NERVE! UNBELIEVABLE!

So the 'genetic template' showed up on December 14, 1 day before the child support payment was due, with no advance notice that he would be home on leave, and demanded the children or he would not pay the child support. Although I was pissed that he is still allowed to treat us this way, at his beck and call, I allowed the children to go. I took them to meet him, and video recorded the entire

Watch The Video Below*He admits that he went scuba diving before he even called to see his kids.*He claims that there was "lights" and running water in the house the day he walked out on us. [A week earlier, when the electric company cut the power, he called and told them that our house was like a rolling brown out. They told us that their tech had booted the meter wrong and we were getting '

Can I Make You My Daddy?

After two long, lonely, grueling years, I've finally found someone worthy of being a member of this family. He is a noble, kind hearted, and caring man who adores me and adores my kids. And we all adore him. This is wonderful news, which has brought happiness and joy to all of our lives. I am happier. My kids are happier. I feel more secure, more stable, calmer, and I finally feel 'at peace

Thankful For Our Kids, And Then Some...

First, of all, Happy Thanksgiving! On this day, we choose to give thanks for various things in our lives and loves, and for Mommies everywhere, the first thanks we give is always for our kids. They bring joy and happiness to our lives in so many ways. But this year, I wanted to think beyond being thankful for my kids and take stock of what else I am thankful for in my life. Of course, the

Scaling Fences, The Life Of A Single Mom

So this morning, I was out in the garage with the baby, looking through some laundry to find something for him to wear. Suddenly, my older boy joins us, closing, and locking I would soon find out, the door behind him. When I went to open and found it locked, I was a none too happy mommy. So here I am, already dressed for work, in my navy blue tailored trousers and my navy blue and white

The Paradoxical Life Of A Not So Young Single Mom

This morning has me confused and bewildered. I came to mommyhood late in life, not having had my first until I was 31. I thought I was ready. I had a successful business, a home, good credit, cars, boat, all the material things that most people sacrifice for the sake of having families young. I had traveled, I had lived. I felt I was worldly and experienced. I thought it was time. In less

My Forgotten Father

Today is November 15, 2009 and on Nov 13, it was exactly two years since my boys' Daddy deserted us, leaving us homeless and destitute. I had a roommate for a long time, but for the past month or so, it has just been the boys and me. Last night, a friend decided to tell me how well she thought I was doing on my own. I believe she is trying to 'give' me strength by telling me how strong I am.

Double Standards, Mass Confusion, The Exodus Awaits

Today, I was reading the Dr. Phil newsletter that I subscribe to by email. Of course, I'm a huge fan of Dr. Phil, since, as everyone knows, I like that he can tell it like it is to his 'patients' without the fear of losing the 'paycheck'. The fear which causes therapists in general to mollycoddle everyone and not just force the accountability and responsibility that so many of us "free thinking

Donations

Hi readers,Ok, so I can no longer live in my home due to 'vandals.' So... I found a rental until I can get the mess in my own house sorted out. I was really lucky today, when I stopped in one of those rent to own places, and found a couch and loveseat for only $58.00 a month for 12 months. Not too bad.Now, what to do about a bed?I perish the thought at what these 'criminals' may have done to,

Single Mom Dating- The Internet And Boundaries

As if trying to meet and find the time to date someone isn't hard enough, along comes "Internet Dating." While it seems like an ideal way for two people to learn about each other and get to know each other before investing actual dates, the Internet has removed so many of the traditional boundaries of acceptable courtship, that this single mom has begun to wonder if it's even worth it to bother

To Hope Or Not To Hope

I find myself at a crossroads. I want someone in my life. I don't want to subject my kids to a stepfather, or worse, another man who may or may not be there forever. I can't compartmentalize my entire life. That would be fair to no one at all. The kids deserve a real father figure in their lives. And not this 'part-time' joint custody bullshit that our society has come to accept as 'just

I've put up with a lot of SH*T

*Sigh. I must admit, I am tired. Exhausted, in fact. I feel like I'm banging my head against a wall most days. Trying to take a stand for what I know is right, yet, each day, with every word I utter, I am met with stubborn defiance about the subject of broken families. Despite research that supports my belief that couples need to learn to work out their problems instead of breaking the home

When does it END?

When we last left the ongoing saga of 'As The Stomach Turns- The Story of the Deadbeat Dad" his mother and I had supposedly agreed that she could 'see' the kids. Now suddenly, it's 'the weekend.' And if I don't let her have them for the whole weekend, she won't see them at all, and he won't pay child support. I let her have them plenty during the month that we were up there, but that was

The Sleeper Effect- The Price Children Pay For Divorce

The Divorce Resource Center Has Some GREAT ARTICLES which gave me a lot of insight as to how we got to where we are about 'family values' in today's society.The Sleeper Effect - The Price Children Pay for DivorceNewsweek 10/2/00 By John Leo The sleeper effect: A new book ups the price that children pay for divorce A startling thought is occurring to the folks who study the impact of divorce on

A Quiet Reflection On "Family Values"

I have a friend who lives in Egypt who is a muslim. He was in love with a Christian girl,I' and though his family nearly disowned him for it, he abandoned his belief system to be with this girl, and even lived with her outside of marriage. He says he gave her everything and did everything for her and still she left him. We had a deep conversation about how to cope with this kind of 'grief' and

I am not alone in my fight

I found this today, and it brought tears to my eyes. As a child of divorce, and a mom who has been left by my kids dad, I have seen and felt what this article describes.http://www.divorceresourcecenter.com/childrens-side.htmThe Children's Side Of Divorce: Some Surprising Conclusions By MARY JO KOCHAKIAN The Hartford Courant - September 04, 2000 People think there are two sides to a divorce -

Who Is More Afraid Of A Thief Than A Thief?

I almost don't even want to tell the story. Beyond the anger, is an inherent sadness that has left me feeling depleted. If you've followed this blog, and know my story, you know that my kids' 'sperm seller' was the love of my life. When I first met him, his mother adored me, but when I ran out of money, things changed. She now supported his decision to abandon our family. She knew that my son

She can't see the forest because there are too many trees in the way

In a previous post, I talked about the woman I took in who wound up causing me 10 days of grief and other issues I am still dealing with today. I took her in because she was the 'friend' of the roommate I already had, who was a major cause of the problems with the new one. You see, for over a year, roommate #1, lived with me and refused to work. We would get writing jobs online, and getting

The smell of the scheme is getting stronger

Well, here it is, folks. The "Deadbeat Dad" in question, now is offering $150.00 a week in child support, plus, he conveniently has $2,498.00 just 'lying around' to pay for our sons dental care. Now, I have medical coverage that will cover the baby's dental work, but he doesn't want our son to have a 'welfare' doctor, and of course, it's going to cut into the child support he's agreed to give

An Evening With The Deadbeats Mother

So a few weeks ago, as you may recall, I spoke with my kid's paternal grandmother. I told her that the boys needed medical coverage and that I would like to know what their father planned to do about it. She replied he wanted to contact me through my email and discuss a few things with me. I was very hesitant and made my feelings on the matter known to her. After all, the last time a member

Is Your Break Up Making Your Kids Fat?

We all know that break ups can be devastating to us in many ways. It's no secret that for us women, weight can is a major break up pitfall. But something occured to me today about the financial devastation of a break up or divorce possibly being the cause of overweight kids. I'm not even talking about the 'emotional overeating that an adult woman engages in after a split,' I'm talking about

And so...

Strange things are afoot. The boys fathers mother has kept his word to pay child support and now says he is going to pay me $150.00 a week and give the kids medical coverage. This is wonderful for me, if I knew what he was up to. Let's face it, we're talking about a family where the brother ripped me off for over $3,000, he left me homeless while carrying our second and caring for our first,

You leave, You lose

Even though the new site is up, I haven't reorganize this one yet, but I've decided to keep this site up so that I can post here stuff that doesn't 'fit' with the other site. I talked on the phone with a friend last night whose daughter is dating a man who has a child from a former relationship. She was telling me that he has 50% custody of his son, and still pays $450 a month in child support.

Their father starts the blackmail again

Well, here we go. I was a bit short on the bills this month, so I called their father's mother to ask her if she can get hold of him to tell him I need money. At first she said she talked to him a couple of days ago, but within two minutes, she magically had him online on Yahoo msgr and told me that he said if I give her my kids birth certificates and social security numbers that she can give me

Free Single Moms Tips

Here are some free single moms tips I thought I would share.Don't let anyone to tell you what's best, bad, right or wrong for your family. You know your kids better than anyone, and you know what you want for them, follow your heart, this is your family.No matter what, how bad things are, how hard they are, how tough they are, your children don't know, all they know is they want your love. If

Financial Help For Single Mom's- The Perils Of Helping Someone Else By Taking In A Roommate

Here's one for the books on single mom-dom. In my book, "The Single Mother's Survival Guide" I suggest taking in a roommate to help out with the bills, household chores and overall general home life that requires constant nurturing. Taking on a roommate can be a Godsend, but only if it's the right roommate. The wrong roommate can send you down in a fiery pit of flames faster than an Indy stock

Getting Ready To Say GoodBye

This is going to be a hard post for me to write. Once I finish the new site, this one is going to have a whole new look, and most of these 'deadbeat dad' type posts are going to be moved to the bottom probably many pages back in this blog. I have come to the realization that this blog is supposed to be about 'financial help for single moms' and it's become mostly about deadbeat dads, military

Financial Help For Single Moms's- Thoughts on divorce

I pulled some information from a discussion board on David Iguanzo's "Childrens Rights" Facebook group, and I thought I would post them here along with some added thoughts of my own. My additions will be in bold italics...There's quite a bit of chatter about 'equal parenting, and 'father's rights' and even 'children's rights' with respect to 'equal parenting.' Unfortunately, when men fight for

Financial Help For Single Mom's- Financial Assistance and it's Downfalls

When I started this blog, it was dedicated to providing financial help and assistance for single mom's. But I've noticed lately that many of my posts have become about child support, deadbeat dads, and the defunct family court systems that have created the need for single moms to find financial support, and I've made a few decisions.First, in the coming weeks, I am going to redesign this blog

An Open Letter To The Mother Of My Deadbeat Dad

I've had some conversations with the sperm donors mother over the past two days, and what it comes down to is this. She talks bad about my family, and how they treat me, but when I bring up how HER family treated me and my kids, I get "I'm not going to talk about it."She talks about how my ex and I were always fighting and how it wasn't good for the baby to see, but when I bring up the question,

***Update*** On The Deadbeat Dad, Another one for the Deadbeat Dad's List

So our older boy is pretty sick and here's another one for the Deadbeat Dad's list. A friend of mine told the sperm donor that the boy is sick and because of my crappy Medicaid medical coverage, he's not getting very good care from the doctors. Suddenly, the message from the sperm donor's mother- He wants to talk to me about medical coverage for the boys and a few other things that I will be

My Reply To The Email in the previous post

I sit here, Sunday morning cup of coffee in hand, and heavy heart bestowed upon me.I would, and have, sacrifice my LIFE, and my own 'happiness' for my children just as this article suggests is the responsible thing for a parent to do. I was force into motherhood by their father who threatened to leave me if I did not have them, then force into 'single motherhod' when he was permitted to

Help For Single Moms

I belong to a Facebook group called "Children's Rights" that advocates the saving of the family unit and keeping families together. I wanted to share the story I read here, and then I'll post my response.This story touched me on many levels. Here it is:Dear Dr. LauraAs I was doing dishes, I was thinking of a caller you had recently. She was having second thoughts since leaving her career to take

June 9, 2009

Being a single mom can get downright frustrating some days. I often find myself wondering what more 'financial help for single moms' is out there and the one I come back to the most often is child support. It's no secret on this blog that my son's father is the worst kind of deadbeat dad, he's a MILITARY Deadbeat Dad. It's not that he CAN'T help to support our boys, he just WON'T. In typical

&#aTThThMy ex pointed a loaded gun at my face, slapped me across the face, dragged me across a room by my hair, and tried to run me over with a car (running over both my feet) while I was pregnant. As is the case with many women in abusive relationships, I chose to believe his apologies and promises that it would never happen again, up until he tried to run me over with the car. When I did

More Information On The SCRA

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/18506417/page/2/print/1/displaymode/1098/Some family court judges say that determining what’s best for a child in a custody case is simply not comparable to deciding civil property disputes and the like; they have ruled that family law trumps the federal law protecting servicemembers.http://www.usdoj.gov/crt/speeches/wjk_article.phpIf you would like to discuss SCRA

Supporting Cases

Here are two cases where the courts have denied a stay in cases involving the SCRAReference url: http://www.kscourts.org/Cases-and-opinions/opinions/supct/2006/20060714/95727.htm. IN THE SUPREME COURT OF THE STATE OF KANSAS No. 95,727 In the Matter of the Marriage of LEVI BRADLEY, Appellant, and AMBER BRADLEY, Appellee. SYLLABUS BY THE COURT 1. The stated purpose of the

An Open Letter To Florida Child Support Enforcement, The DOR, and the Attorney

To Whom It May Concern, The ineptitude and blatant disregard for legal protection for my children in my Child Support Enforcement Case has gone on for 18 months now, and I am issuing this letter to make clear that I have thoroughly researched what would be proper procedure for a private attorney to take to finally bring closure to this debacle that CSE, the DOR, and attorney, David Earl have

Financial Help For Single Moms Starts With Help For Deadbeat Dads

Read on a Yahoo blog:By: pathogan7012/04/20099:06 amYahoo! Profile: pathogan70Did this message offend you? Report abuse Re:Dead Beat Dads on the Dole Reply to this message "something needs to be done for the children"... You know how many times you will hear that at the family court? It has no bearing on anything, the system assumes every bloke is a violent creep, and every woman is mother

The Song

The Song..Now this here's a story bout a Private named SanterreA deadbeat Dad in the Army that doesn't careWith two little boys at home he's goin off to warAnd the two little boysare standing at the doorDeadbeat, Dad that is.A nice little act that the military passedLet's him leave his son's behindAnd all his money stashedWithout an order for supportSargeant says he cannot helpBut Sargeant covers

Florida National Guard Gets Black Eye- Protecting A Deadbeat Dad

For 18 months I have battled Child Support Enforcement in the state of Florida to serve my children's father with child support papers. They have hemmed and hawed, and stalled, and given me innaccurate and incomplete advice and in the end, I had to be the one to solve THEIR problem before they would file.Three months ago, when I finally did get their problem solved for them, they were now free to

Does The Florida Army National Guard Protect Deadbeat Dads?

If you've been following this blog, you know that my name is Vanessa Blais and I am a single mom fighting for child support for my children, among other family issues, such as 'Family Crisis Intervention" and "Mandated Family Counseling Even Without Marriage", however, this article is about to expose a serious cover-up by the Florida National Guard to protect Deadbeat Dads.My particular case was

Marriage costs Tampa Bay Woman child support for 18 months

Most people think that being married gives you more legal rights than being unmarried. Nothing could be further from the truth.Imagine being married and realizing one day, that you just are not in love. You end your marriage very amicably, without drama, and you aren't hateful, so you don't 'rush' into a divorce that will ensure 'financial devastation.' Then you meet someone else and it's love

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6 Simple Steps To Filing For Child Support, Without A Lawyer And Regardless of Your Circumstances

My name is Vanessa Blais, and I have the most convoluted child support story I think anyone is ever going to hear. I was married to a good man for nine years. We had a very nice life and we were good friends. But no matter how hard we tried, we just were not in love. And so, we split up. It was very amicable and we were in no rush to get divorced. Along came the love of my life. He wanted a

The Best Financial Help For Single Mom's- The Deadbeat Dads List

The best financial help for single mom's is the deadbeat dad's list. If he's not going to pay child support anyway, he might as well go to jail where he can be prevented from breeding any more children he wont' support.Lawywers are calling for 'equal parenting.' But there is no 'equality' in the financial obligation. The absentee parent is only responsible for paying 30% of INCOME in support.

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I got behind on this blog, but I'm back with some great stuff

Ok... so, since this blog is about Financial Help For Single Moms, I guess the best first thing I can offer you is some information about how you can make some extra cash on the Internet. Now, when I first started out trying to make money online, I was completely taken in by the hundreds upon hundreds of ways that there are to actually make money online. From online jobs, to virtual assistants,

National Single Parents Day- Single Parents Every Day

Yesterday, March 21, 2009, was National Single Parents Day. By the time I found out about it, I was already deeply buried in some projects I was working on and it's just been bugging me that I missed an opportunity to bring attention to this very important day with this blog. Single parenting has got to be the number one most difficult job on the planet. I know it's a daily struggle for me. I

Financial Help For Single Mom's,- Moms Make Money With Blogs

If you need financial help for single moms, consider starting a Moms Make Money Blog. Simply put, a Mom's Make Money With Blogs blog is a blog that can offer financial assistance for other single Mom's by giving all kinds of tips and tricks for moms to make money online. There are hundreds of ways for mom's to make money on the Internet and showing them how can be a great way for you to make

Obama's Stimulus Package- What Does It Mean For Single Moms

There have always been grants and other types of financial assistance for single moms. With President Barack Obama's new stimulus package, more and more people are starting to look at grants as an alternative means for raising capital for going to school, starting up a business, or even paying basic living expenses. Today, President Obama released a statement about what the stimulus package

Word From a Mom Who Once Needed Financial Help For Single Moms

Dear Sister Single Mom, Welcome to Financial Help For Single Mom's, my blog dedicated to helping you rebuild your life. Since most relationships end over financial problems, it stands to reason that if you're recently suffered a separation, you probably have some money problems and financial help for single mom's is exactly what you need to get back on track. Financial help for single

Financial Help For Single Moms- Credit Repair

A credit repair agency advertises that it can help you repair bad credit so that you will qualify for that loan you need to buy a new car or take a vacation. However, you do have to be careful when engaging the services of one of these agencies because many of them will not provide you with any information. In fact, that is all you can hope for with a credit repair agency because you are the only

Financial Help For Single Moms- Home Business Ideas

Here are some excellent businesses that you can start, operate and grow from your home. All these work at home businesses have the following desirable features:**Low Startup Costs**Ease of Entry**High Income Potential**Home Based and Operated **Worldwide Sales Potential **Residual, Recurring and/or Passive Income Potential 1. ConsultingA consultant is someone expert in a field who, for a fee,

Finding Additional Support for your Home Business

You might wonder although you really want to start a business, where could you find support for your home business when you have limited start up costs to begin a whole new business? There are many ways to work around this. Here are a few options you can consider.Consider a loan from a family member. While all family loans are not created equal, you never know who will be your biggest supporter

Financial Help For Single Mom's- How To Finance Your Small Business Start Up

It all starts with a great idea, an idea that has probably been in your mind for a long time. You have the product sorted out, how you are going to deliver your service, where you are going to set up your office and how you are going to market your new business. But the stumbling block always seems to be the finance to get you going.Finding the finance to get a small business off the ground is a

Financial Help For Single Mom's- A Small Business Can Help A Lot

Small business is a term that is used day-to-day. That is because in the past decade the rise of small business has been larger than in any other decade prior. This is largely due to the increasing number of services that are available to small business owners, to enable them to keep their business running.There really isn't any guidelines for when the term small business is used, however it is

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Depending on what kind of business you’re planning to start, you might be able to get a home business grant. These grants are usually government-issued. They are, effectively, ‘free money’ – as long as you use the money for what you say you’re going to use it for, you don’t ever have to pay it back. Even if you don’t think you would qualify for anything, you might be able to modify your business

How to Find Free Government Grant Money

Finding free government grant money can be time and labor intensive. Identifying the specific agencies and their purposes and specific subject areas can involve a lot of research work. Ads that claim the process is easy usually involve some sort of fraud and are untruthful. Government grant money will need to be answered for very specifically in today's world.Free government grant money does

Alternative Venture Finance: Federal Grants and Loans

While most companies seeking venture capital initially think about angel investors and venture capitalists, a large alternative source of financing is federal grants and loans. The two largest federal grant programs are run by the Small Business Administration (SBA), and by Small Business Investment Companies (SBICs).An SBA loan, regardless of whether it is a direct loan from the SBA, or, as is

Financial Help For Single Mom's

Dear Friend, I am a single mom and I know exactly what it's like, so Istarted my blog to help other single mom's. I want you to knowthat each day of being a single mom presents a new challenge forme, and I'm committed to sharing those challenges, and thesolutions I find for them, on my blog. Feel free to use the comments section of the blog to askquestions, or even just to vent. No matter